The Six Human Needs – Are You on Track?

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The Six Human Needs – Are You on Track?

The Six Human Needs – Are You on Track?

Every human being is different.  But we’re also similar in fundamental ways.  We all have Six core Human Needs, and without fulfilling these needs in a positive way we will never feel 100% happy or fulfilled.

Here they are:

      1. CERTAINTY
        As humans, we like to feel we’re in control.  We thrive on knowing what comes next. At the most basic level, we all want comfort, and we all prefer to avoid pain and stress.  We also appreciate the certainty that we’ll feel pleasure.  Certainty is a key survival mechanism and directly affects the amount of risk we take, whether it’s at work or in our personal lives.  The more we demand certainty, the fewer risks we’re happy to take.  And its important to get the balance ‘right’.
        It’s the direct opposite of certainty.  But humans also thrive on a level of uncertainty. Most of us enjoy nice surprises, but we don’t appreciate nasty shocks.  On the other hand we still need ‘problems’ to push against, to contrast against the good stuff, to give us the mental muscle we need to grow our characters.  Variety is, after all, the spice of life.
        Every human being enjoys feeling important, special, unique and needed. We get our significance fix in all sorts of ways, negative or positive, everything from earning fortunes to academic success, gathering thousands of ‘friends’ on social media to high levels of domestic excellence and profound spiritual awakenings.  You could spend loads or be famously frugal.  You could become a world expert in your subject, whatever it may be.  They’re all ways to make yourself feel significant.
      4. LOVE and CONNECTION
        Love is the oxygen of life.  Everyone responds positively to receiving love. By the same token the loss of love can crush us, and many of us will do almost anything to hang onto it, even if it means the love is so finely spread it’s actually no more than a connection.A sense of connection comes through love, but we can also feel a sense of powerful connection through intimacy, friendship, religion, spirituality, the companionship of a pet or simply walking in nature.
      5. GROWTH
        Now for probably the most important and rarest human needs.  The first of these is Growth.  We need to grow because it means we have more of value to give to others.  When you’re not growing, your’e stagnating.  Whether it’s yourself, your relationships, your work or business, without growth nothing feels right:  you can be rich, have hundreds of friends and be loved by the people you care most about, but real fulfilment will elude you.
        Last but not least is Contribution.  It’s vital because the secret to living a wonderful life is giving.  We spread good news instinctively, we share experiences with those we love.  And sharing enhances everything we experience.  In order to share, we need to contribute.Put another way, human life involves creating meaning, which comes from what you give rather than what you receive.  This means that what you contribute and who you become are vitally important.

What about You?
Take a look at the list.  Is your life lacking in any of these key six areas?  If so, I can help you with the Transformational Change you need to achieve real fulfilment and happiness … from the inside-out.  Feel free to get in touch for a free and informal chat about the possibilities available to you now.

How to achieve a healthy Work-Life Balance

How to achieve a healthy Work-Life Balance

I see many clients who work just tooo much, and for what reward?  A particular client sticks in my mind as the very first thing she did every morning was check her emails.  For lunch, on most days she’d have a quick, and probably unhealthy snack at her desk, and then stay in the office until 7pm.  She rarely saw her partner and two young children.  Does she sound like you?

Achieving a healthy work-life balance is crucial if you want to avoid burn-out and overwhelm.

These days, people simply push themselves to do much too much, and consequently their relationships suffer.  It’s wonderful to be passionate about your work – up to a point, but it isn’t wonderful when passion for your career adversely affects your family life.

In some cases, people become obsessed with work because something else in their life is missing and they use their work as an escape. This can become a vicious circle, as the more you throw yourself into work at the expense of your relationship, the more that relationship suffers.

Achieving a healthy work-life balance is about finding a happy medium.  When you’re at work, you can give it 100%, and leave it behind when you go home.  Home equals guilt-free time with family and/or friends, or whatever it is that you love, but it is certainly not the time to be checking your phone constantly for emails….

This takes me back to my client whose relationship and health were suffering due to long hours at work. Together, we adjusted and met her most important needs in a healthy and satisfying way.

If your work-life balance is out of kilter, I can help you find your own solutions.  People generally find that they are’nt living in alignment with what is ultimately so important and meaningful to them in their lives.  When people are feeling burnt out, sometimes teachers forget how important ‘learning’ is to them, or doctors may forget how important ‘health’ is to them, and ‘fun’ doesn’t often get a mention!

I work individually and intuitively with each client, using a broad and powerful range of extremely effective methods to help transform their lives, as life definitely isn’t a case of ‘one size fits all’.
These methods include CBT, (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), EFT, (Emotional Freedom Technique), NLP, (Neurolinguistic Programming), Transformational Life Coaching and Strategic Intervention Coaching.


There are two packages available for people who realise they have a problem with a healthy work-life balance. There’s a Fast-Track Programme for people who want to make immediate change, and a three-month  “From Surviving to Thriving Programme” for people who prefer a slower pace.

I don’t see my workaholic client anymore as her life is now back on track.
If you’d like me to help you overcome similar issues, I look forward to speaking with you soon …

The Benefits of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)

The Benefits of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming)

What is NLP?

NLP, or Neurolinguistic Programming is another type of therapy that can be used for self-development but can also be used to increase success in interpersonal relations, businesses and organisations. It holds the assumption that neurological processes, language and learned behaviour are interconnected and can be changed in order to achieve specific goals. Neurolinguistic programming deals with how we think, how we motivate ourselves and how we bring meaning to our lives.

Scientifically put, the trained practitioner works by using specific techniques which then change our internal responses to external stimuli which then achieves the desired outcome.  It is an incredible powerful tool and has had much success. It is the practice of understanding how we organise our thoughts, feelings, language and behaviour in order to achieve what we want.

How can NLP help me?

It all sounds very scientific and complex, but simply put in lay-man’s terms, it is a way of studying how people excel in any field and teaching these patterns to others.  When put like that, it sounds very appealing to pretty much everybody.  Who doesn’t want to achieve excellence?!  Along with an efficient methodology behind the practice, it also allows for individual differences to be highlighted and celebrated and to become excellent in their chosen field in a unique way.

NLP can help us recognise the times where we are successful and understand how and why this successful outcome arised.  When recognising it, NLP then works to model such patterns so that we can recreate such successes over and over again.  NLP is the study of what makes the difference between average and excellence and helping you unfold your own genius, bringing out the best in yourself and the best in others.  What makes it so helpful and adaptable is that it is a practical skill that can be learnt and honed and one that creates the results you truly want.  These effective techniques that NLP uses can be applied to education, counselling, business and therapy.

If you would like to find out more about how Neurolinguistic Programming can help you or to find out more information about NLP in Brighton, call Breakthrough Therapies today on 01273 500 467 or email us at

All about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

All about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)

What is EFT?

Emotional Freedom Technique is a psychological acupuncture technique based on the same energy meridian points as in traditional acupuncture.  It optimizes emotional health which in turn has a knock-on effect on your physical health.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

EFT treats emotional and physical ailments that acupuncture would but without the invasive needles.  Rather than the off-putting needles, EFT works through simple tapping on the meridian points on the face and body whilst thinking about the problem and then giving yourself positive affirmations.  Typical problems could be a traumatic event, physical pain or even addiction.

EFT is based on the assumption that the problem is a sort of “emotional block” which upsets the mind and body’s balance.  The notion that the body and the mind has an energy flow is a well grounded and known theory.  The basis of EFT is that any negative emotion is a block to the necessary energy flow and must be dealt with in order to alleviate the symptoms of the mind and body, for example physical signs of stress such as headaches and tension in the neck.

How does EFT work?

EFT accesses the electrical energy in our body and works with it to aid the essential flow and balance the mind and body toward a more healthy state.  The blockages in energy not only cause negative emotion but also affect out belief systems and alter our behaviour in a negative way.  Anxiety, depression, low self esteem, obsessive compulsive behaviours are all negative emotions and feelings which cause great suffering to daily life if not dealt with appropriately and efficiently.

It is now widely recognised that mental and emotional health and wellbeing is directly linked to our physical health and vice versa. Therefore, it is accepted that physical ailments and chronic illnesses can also benefit from EFT. EFT is a natural remedy against pain and discomfort, whether emotional disharmony or physical symptoms. It offers an alternative or additional aid against the negative symptoms of the mind and body.

If you would like to find out more about how Emotional Freedom Technique can help you or to find out more information about EFT in Brighton, call Breakthrough Therapies today on 01273 500 467 or email us at

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) & how can it help me?

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) & how can it help me?

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT is a type of psychotherapy that focuses in on the how we think about things and how this governs how we feel about them and what we do about them.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

CBT can help relieve depression, anxiety and other mental health problems as well as increasing self-esteem.  CBT holds the basic concept that the way we feel is based on our cognitions, or our thoughts, and this affects how we behave.  CBT has been proved to be effective in hundreds of clinical trials and is a well-respected form of therapy.

How can CBT help me?

We all have what is known as cognitive distortions, the negative ways we think which are not helpful to how we live our lives. Examples of this are “all-or-nothing” thinkings, when we see things in absolute black and white. For example ‘you’ve ruined the whole day’ and ‘he can do nothing wrong’. Another cognitive distortion is overgeneralising, seeing one negative event as indicating all future defeat. We all have moments where we think as a fortune-teller, predicting ahead that people will react negatively to us without any evidence to back this up. Similarly, we act as mind reader, when we assume people are reacting and thinking badly of us. The most common problem with how we often think is when we make ‘should’ statements: when we criticise ourselves and other people with ‘shoulds’, ‘musts’ and ‘oughts’.

The way we think has a huge impact on our emotional wellbeing. For example, thinking other people have a negative judgement on us will most likely make us feel depressed, irritated and insecure. This will affect the way we behave, perhaps being withdrawn and unsociable.

When we recognise the negative ways we think and how this affects our feelings and behaviour we can then work to changing our thought processes and our distorted self-beliefs which are ultimately unhelpful for ourselves to function adequately by challenging them.

Whilst engaging in cognitive behavioural therapy, as your therapist working with you to reach your goals, we will explore and map out your story. Through this we will identify your inner beliefs and the negative cycles that have created the situation and behaviours that you feel are becoming problematic in your life.

So how is CBT different to other forms of therapy?

It is different from other types of therapy as it is largely solution-focused and can get results in a limited timeframe.  It gives people the skills to be able to identify their negative thought processes and ultimately be able to alter their mood and behaviours.  This allows patients to become their own therapists and continue to improve their emotional wellbeing long after their therapy sessions end.

If you would like to find out more about how Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help you or to find out more information about CBT in Brighton, call Breakthrough Therapies today on 01273 500 467 or email us at